Posted on | November 13, 2012 | 1 Comment
Christmas season is almost here. The year has gone past so quickly, it was only yesterday when people were buying and giving gifts to their beloved someone.
When this season comes, I feel almost uncomfortable. You see, I have this habit of not giving gifts when occasions like these comes around. Don’t get me wrong, I do love to give gifts and make people that I love happy.
So, why do I feel somewhat uncomfortable during these times?
Because I am expected to give out something. If you are expected to give then you are no longer giving a gift. A gift is something that is not expected, it is something that comes out of spontaneity.
Here is a valid question. Will you give a gift even if these yuletide season is not celebrated? Will you go into great length as to look for that something to brought home when Christmas eve is none existent? Will you even remember your love one from afar when December comes along?
I think not!
Because I love to surprise people. When you think of a gift, you also think of the “surprise”, right? Because gift has the “power to surprise” people. I love to see people’s eyes widen when I hand something to them that says they are remembered and they are important no matter is the date and no matter is the situation. I want those people close to me to remember that I do remember them not only on their birthdays but also on their dogged days. I have come to learn that, when I bring home a gift in the days when no one else suspects I would, the effect of that occasion becomes lasting, and is deeply engrave in the person’s memory.
In wars and battle strategy, there is what they call the “element of surprise.” Someone used this allegory so efficiently in one of his speaking engagement and said, “if the element of surprise is a powerful strategy in times of war, it is more powerful in building strong relationships”.
Surprising people is one of the many good things I have learned in building my marriage even stronger, and building my family bond even better.
A simple rose on a Friday afternoon or any day of the week for my wife does wonders for her confidence as a partner and companion in life. It tells her how much she is remembered throughout the week, and how much important she is to me and to my children.
An unexpected dine out for the whole family on a lazy Sunday afternoon does so much to my children than a thousand “I love yous”.
An unplanned out of town short trip for the whole family will fair better than a 1000$ gift on Christmas eve.
These are just 3 of the many things I do once in a while to surprise the people that are dear to me.
What about you? Do you have ideas to surprise your love ones that build you a better relationship? Please use the comment section below to share your ideas. I can’t wait to read and reply to what you have to say.