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4 Biggest confidence Killers in Building Strong Relationships

Posted on | October 18, 2012 | 5 Comments

What’s one of the biggest confidence killers for people about building strong relationship? Beliefs they hold on to that undermine their confidence.

They include:


  • Outrageous expectations (I have to be good and perfect for my husband/wife every time, or we need to always agree on anything no exceptions),
  • Negative names they call themselves (I’m a fat and unattrractive. I am small and cannot be smart),
  • “I can’t” statements (I can’t cook. I can’t Dance)
  • And goofy beliefs (I can’t go out when I am not wearing my favorite red-striped underwear, or the pink-colored dress).

Maybe you’re ok not wearing striped undies. But I bet you have displayed some, if not all, of these tendencies from time-to-time.

If you haven’t, that’s great news!

Here’s the good news: You can help identify and overcome these beliefs.

First, you need to look at the types of beliefs mentioned above.

You then should identify some of the ways your thoughts and feelings fall into these categories.

For example, you might say, “I definitely have the ‘I can’t statement’ problem. I’m always telling myself I do not look good enough in an evening dress.”

Once you’ve helped your self identify these beliefs, you want to replace these beliefs with more positive ones.

For example, you might say, “I’m too small to be smarter. ”Have them change this to: “I am really caring and fun-loving. My friends needs me for these abilities.”

Building strong relationships is not a one time event. This is a journey of a lifetime. You should always remind yourself to replace negativity with more positive, realistic ideas.

It may take time, but be patient. Change of thinking does not happen overnight!

Looking forward to your comments!

MPowRX Health and Wellness Products Inc

5 Responses to “4 Biggest confidence Killers in Building Strong Relationships”

  • Tsukasa says:

    Oh, and as to this post it 100% without a doubt aetsluobly positively matters what you believe becaues unless you have accepted Jesus Christ as your personal savior, it does not matter if you are the greatest, most helpful, kindest, generous humanitarian walking the face of the earth. You are going to hell. I believe the Bible is 100% true, inspired by God, written by man and given to us as a guide to living.I say this with no hint of judging anyone who doesn’t believe this. I’m sure that other people are just as sincere in their beliefs in an afterlife as another person or in another source of comfort. So if I am wrong, I guess I will be quite surprised to find I am a dog or a street cleaner. But if I am right and the un-saved are wrong, then it will be a horrible eternity for them.

    • Hi Tsukasa,

      I have no quarrel with this. But there are people who will react differently though. What we are will be laid bare before God ultimately. Only then that judgement will be meted. But today, is not that time.

      It is still wise to NOT JUDGE before the judgement day.

  • Brenda says:

    I’m so glad I found my souliton online.

    • Hi Brenda,

      I am happy it has helped you. There are a lot of things going on in and around us and most of those things just kills our confidence and the confidence of young people. If we can identify what they are we can avoid those and be better persons.

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