Posted on | November 8, 2012 | 2 Comments
When you are a seventeen year old girl, one of the last things you would be thinking about is being a mother. Normally, young girls this age think about getting a boyfriend, hanging out with friends, buying a brand new phone model or the latest trend in fashion dresses. There are also exceptional few that are focused on getting high grades and topping in class. But who would be sane enough to even consider being a teenage mom?
At age 17, I was a rebel. I disobeyed every rule my parents gave. I was a stubborn young girl doing what I want, the way I want it. I felt as free as the eagle when I was studying college away from home, away from my parents and their rules and restrictions. I was having fun. I had friends I hang out with and I had a boyfriend I thought I was in love with. I was carefree and careless.
One day, the painful truth hit me. I am 17 and pregnant. It was the scariest moment in my life. It was also in that moment when I learned 3 things about parents and their love for their children.
You are still their child no matter what you do.
After not talking to them for almost a year, they came rushing to pick me up when they heard that I was hospitalized for urinary tract infection. Despite the unpleasant things I did to them, I talked back, I said unpleasant words and I did the things they hate me doing, they still took me back as their child. No questions asked.
They allow you to fall for you to learn.
I was underage. They could have forced me to do what they want but they chose to let me do what I want. All they did was warn me. They knew from the very start that I will fall and commit a lot of painful mistakes but they still let me go. And soon enough, I did commit a huge mistake that changed the course of my life forever. I did fell. It was such a huge fall I was afraid I won’t be able to stand back up. But when I looked up, my parents were there stretching out their arms to help me. Now, I have learned my lessons. Not from teachings but from experience. It was painful for them too but they know it has to happen for me to learn from my mistakes.
Parents will help you out but they will not free you from responsibility.
My parents did help me out. They sent me back to school and supported me and my child. But they did not free me from the responsibilities. They made sure that I know my obligations as a mother and a student at the same time. Parents are there to make things less difficult but you still have to do your part and exert double effort to completely recover from your fall.
Parents are not perfect. They are only humans and are prone to commit mistakes and fail as well. But one thing that never fails is their love for their children. And now that I am a parent myself, I can see the perspective parents view their children. Time is of the essence. So show your parents how much you love them now. Discover for yourself how much joy the simple words “I Love You” and “Thank You” can bring.