Posted on | November 8, 2012 | 6 Comments
Elections are tools of allowing the people to speak out their thoughts, stand their ground and make sure their voices are heard. And the people of the United States of America have just spoken.
Results of the recent U.S. election showed that the people of America have chosen President Barack Obama to lead the country for four more years. He won another term as he handily defeated Gov. Mitt Romney.
After the results had been out, both President Obama and Gov. Romney made speeches to their supporters. And while listening to President Obama’s speech, a sentence just kept spinning in my head and I just can’t help but quote it.
“Whether I earned your vote or not, I have listened to you, I have learned from you. And you have made me a better president,” – US President Barack Obama.
His statement emphasized 3 points- listen, learn and grow. These 3 points are not only useful in leadership and politics but also with our relationships to our husband or wife specially in terms of resolving conflict and arguments.
To listen is to hear with understanding. It is vital in every form of relationship especially in a husband and wife relationship. We want our ideas and feelings to be heard and the same is true for our spouse. There are times when we just feel like sharing what is on our mind and we want someone who would listen to us. In the same manner that we desire a listening ear, we should always be willing to lend our ears as well. Giving time to listen is one of the best expressions of love.
When we listen well enough, we learn more about each other. We discover new revelations and truths about each other that might even surprise us at times. In an argument for instance, one would never understand the true reason behind our partner’s actions unless we stop talking and start listening. Try to listen more and talk less and it will amaze you how much wisdom you have been missing.
When we listen, we learn and this learning helps us grow in our relationships. When we apply the things we learned from each other, this result to a better relationship, a relationship that has less arguments and conflict.
In a husband and wife relationship, arguments are inevitable. The differences in character and preferences sometimes cause indifferences between couples leading to heated arguments and conflicts. But if we just try to listen more, then we will learn more and grow more as well.
“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry” – James1:19