Posted on | November 15, 2012 | 1 Comment
Life is journey. A journey of ups and downs. A journey through the valleys and the hills. On this journey, we are sure to make mistakes – some big while others small and negligible. Some mistakes alter the course of our lives as well that of others around us. But there is no denying the fact that each mistake we make can translate into treasures of lessons we can carry with us through the rest of our journey.
And as we journey to build strong relationships, we look at how we may find those mistakes to work for us and not against us. Here are some thoughts I have come across in my own journey as I build a better and stronger relationship with my family and other people in my life, and how I bounce back after I make mistakes or a loss.
I don’t waste time grieving over a mistake. Once a mistake is committed, there is nothing that I can do to correct it except to say sorry, I blew it or I was such a bonehead. Unless you go back in time and change your actions so that the result is different, that mistake will be recorded in your memory and the memory of others as your mistake. There is no eraser in life or a correction ink where you can apply over and hide the mistake. A mistake is a mistake. The best that you can do about it is to be sorry for it and to not repeat it in order to bounce back.
I try to learn from the mistakes that I make. Part of learning is understanding that you have made a mistake and that there is nothing that you can do to correct it. What you can do however is to learn from those mistakes so that you will not repeat it.
Now, there are actions that must follow in order for you or anyone you know who have made a mistake to be certain learning has taken place.
A person who has learned from the mistake will do certain things to rectify or lessen the negative effect of the mistake – whether internally or externally. After we are able to acknowledge the mistake and has learned from it, a great deal of relief and acceptance begins. This is the perfect moment where a person cross over to the next step of bouncing back. Moving on.
I try to Move on as early as soon as I can. I have seen a lot of people I know who a have made mistakes a decade ago and until now still struggles with the reality of moving on. It’s just so sad a life to live. I am not living a life like that. I think its pitiful.
Moving on is not just simply acknowledging that you should move on. This stage will require for you to look forward into your future while facing the challenge of today – forgetting what is behind.
I have seen young athletes struggle with this stage. When a mistake is made on the court during a match, they keep thinking of the mistake made earlier, and although they have accepted the mistake and the lessons learned from it, they keep going back to it and as a result commits more mistake in the process. This is a clear picture of being unable to move on.
We must learn to move from point-to-point in our lives as it is in a game.
This 3 principles are sure fire thing to make you bounce back from a mistake both in life and in a game. It does work for me, it has worked for many people I know, it has worked for people I have counseled, and I have not doubt it will work for you.
I will look forward to what you have to say. Please use the comment section below. Feel free to share anything that has worked for you in your relationships when mistakes comes.
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